A year after my wife died my sister told me about a ballroom dance place. I went there, and eventually people told me about other dance at other places. I went there, and people told me about other places. People gave me ideas about where to get dance lesson and I followed their advice. If at one of the dances I would meet a lady who became a GF I would then --- drop out of the dance scene and hang out with the new lady, and get into her social circle, her friends, her church, etc. Meeting ladies at dances does not promote a really good match on important characteristic and values.
Normally I would not meet a new lady from the current ladies circle. After we broke up I would go back to the dance scene. I wondered about myself: Why am I not going after the kind of lady that I always thought I would like. Why am I not figuring out how to meet ladies that I would have a strong interest in, based on strong characteristics. Why don’t I figure out what I want and go directly to it.
Then it occurred to me that internet dating would be a way to go. There you post a profile and search for ladies that have a picture and profile that you like. I tried it and it sort of worked. But I found out there are lots of ladies that I don’t have a strong mental attraction to. I had some interesting dates but no real meeting of the minds, no real connection.
Now I am trying to meet new friends, and possible a lady, using social media. There with all the micro blogs and blogs and pictures … it is much easier to get a handle on the characteristics of the people you follow. On a dating site it is much harder to start a conversation because you know so little about the other person. Also it is hard to find out about the other person. With something like Twitter, you can find out more about the person. On a dating site the other person can hide a lot from you. On Twitter there is a social network that tends to bring out the persons real situation.
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